10 Effective Ways To Help You Understand Yourself

Once there, I tried putting myself in your life to ask myself what I was going to do. But I couldn’t give an answer. Because I lack important facts to make a decision. I think that only knowing yourself can find the answer for yourself.

Every human being is a different life, with different circumstances, different personality ranges, different thoughts, and many different things, so you are unique among the more than 7 billion human beings that exist on Earth. Only you know what you want and what you should do. Therefore, improving self-awareness is the first thing you should do to live the life you want.

Self-awareness is not a natural talent, it is a skill that you can master through learning and practicing every day. (If you want and are willing to commit to it, of course.) And I have good news for you. That is, I know a few ways that can help you understand yourself. Check out the 10 ways I suggest below.

1. Connect with yourself

Sounds so general, doesn’t it? How can you connect with yourself? Have you ever spent 10 minutes “selfishly” on your own? Connecting with yourself is simply giving yourself a quiet space to listen to each breath and enjoy the stillness in your mind.

If something comes to mind, listen without judgment. Practicing these moments for days, you will definitely feel strong connections with your soul.

2. Find your core values

The core value is the compass that guides you in the face of the blindness of life. I didn’t know my core values until 6 months ago. That was before I started from scratch at the age of 30 with a round zero. Questions like who I am, what I live for, what I have to do with my life are something I’ve been constantly asking myself in those moments (just like my friend told me at the beginning).

After so many hours of reading, writing, and searching for answers, I realized I had some priorities in life. When I’m not satisfied with these things, I’m annoyed, insecure, and always looking for a way out. The most typical is the fact that I constantly change jobs. The latter still has the same problems as the former. Maybe even more discontent.

By the time I discovered my core values, I knew myself. I know what are the important things that I prioritize in life. So I make decisions based on these things. I’m happier because the work and life I choose aligns with my values.

3. Care about your negative emotions

What makes you feel sad, angry, jealous, jealous, or stressed? What circumstances or reasons often lead you to such feelings? Being aware of this is one way to get to know yourself. We often have no control over our emotions. Especially negative emotions. These emotions occur frequently, affecting your life.

Before, I was someone who didn’t know how to control my emotions. Look at my face, you’ll read my feelings. I’ve started paying more attention to my feelings since I had kids. When raising children, I have a lot of joy and happiness. But it is impossible to avoid unpleasant, frustrating moments. There were times when I couldn’t control it, I yelled at him. Then I regretted doing so.

After that, I became more aware of my emotions. When I knew I was going to get angry, I would go away to calm down. It is not true that when you are aware, you will immediately form effective habits to control your emotions. However, once you are conscious, you will get closer to a solution that helps you master your emotions.

4. Take time to keep a journalThis idea is a great way for you to record what goes on in your world. When you record all your experiences, feelings, and thoughts, it’s easy to track and evaluate yourself. Research indicates that we have more than 6000 thoughts in a day. If you let it go by without taking notes, you’ll miss out on many opportunities to understand yourself.

What you did, why you did it, what feelings you had when a particular event happened, do you regret doing it… Looking back at the events and connecting them together, you will see a clearer picture of yourself.

5. Take personality or self-awareness testsOne of the simple ways many people choose to understand themselves is to take personality tests or self-awareness assessments. These tests help you give an overall view of yourself, your personality traits, the things that are right for you.

However, I think you should not depend entirely on the test results. Take that as a reference. Look at it for a different approach when looking at yourself. Anyway, there’s no denying that this is one of the most effective and quick ways to get you closer to results.

6. Ask others how they view you

You can reach out to friends, colleagues, or anyone you trust to ask how they feel about you. As a result, you know how others see you. Even if you think you’re aware of how you treat others, it’s all about your judgment. Ask them to help you confirm these judgments. At the same time, make an assessment of your relationship with the people around you.

This method, although effective, also reveals some shortcomings. The first is that most likely people are not honestly answering what you ask. The second is that you are easily influenced by what others say. This causes you to make judgments or decisions that are not right for you. I think you should do this based on mindfulness. It’s about always putting these comments in relation to yourself as well.

A friend with over 6000 followers gave me comments to improve communication on social media. You say you sometimes have to live virtually, take lots of beautiful photos, upload more photos of your children to life with a few more tips. I know those are effective things. But for an introvert like me, this isn’t exactly an option I’m comfortable with. I just took this advice and tried to adjust to me.

7. Get expert help

Experts or consultants are the ones who can help you understand yourself. They are methodically learned and trained to help you dig deeper into yourself. They also give you valuable advice on your journey to find yourself. If you’re really struggling and can’t get started, I think this is the most effective way to learn about who you are.

8. Think about your successes and failures

Remember your successes or failures. Take the time to thoroughly understand and analyze these “case studies”. How did it turn out? What did you do? The result? If it had been changed, would you have done it differently? What are your strengths and weaknesses after those events?

I think it’s important to keep a clear mind to look at the problem objectively. This is not the time for you to elevate yourself or be self-conscious because of what you already have. It’s important that you know where your strengths are to keep going. And what are the weaknesses that you need to improve or the mistakes that you need to avoid.

9. Constantly learn and invest in yourself

Albert Einstein once said, “When you stop learning, you start dying.” Staying curious and constantly learning helps us discover ourselves and experience life. When we understand that there is more to discover and learn, we are humble with ourselves. As a result, you get an objective and accurate view of yourself.

You probably already know the Dunning-Kruger effect in psychology. It is roughly understood that a person evaluates his or her capacity higher than their actual capacity. People who do not know themselves well often have such a manifestation. Therefore, constantly learning is one of the ways to help you improve your self-awareness.

10. Workout. Workout. And workouts.

You can read a lot about the power of understanding yourself. But once you don’t take action, everything is on the page. They can’t come into your life and be a part of you.

If 10 ways are too many, choose only one. What I want to emphasize here is that getting started is already a great thing. But if you don’t “keep going” you can still fall behind. And you can lose everything you try. Hope the inspirational quotes below will keep you motivated every day. Hope you don’t give up on your “I’m looking for me” journey.

Quotes that inspire you to know yourself better

• “Self-awareness gives you the ability to learn from mistakes as well as succeed. It helps you grow.” – Lawrence Bossidy

• “When I know who I am, I become free.” – Ralph Ellison

• “Self-awareness is the ability to look at your life honestly without the constraints of right from wrong, good and bad.” – Debbie Ford

• “If you don’t have emotional intelligence, no self-awareness, you can’t control your negative emotions, you don’t have empathy and effective relationships, then no matter how smart you are, you can’t get very far.” – Daniel Goleman

• “Everything that makes us uncomfortable about others can also help us understand ourselves.” – Carl Jung

• “I think self-awareness is probably the most important thing that makes you successful.” – Billie Jean King

• “With the illumination of sustained self-awareness and calm, your inner energy will be awakened and make miraculous changes without any effort on your part.” Nisargadatta Maharaj

• “Humility is not self-deprecation or low self-esteem. Humility is knowing yourself.” – Erwin McManus

• “Living without knowing yourself is not worth living.” – Socrates

• “Without self-awareness, we are just like children in a cradle.” – Virginia Woolf

• “The deepest self-development doesn’t happen when you read or meditate. It happens in conflict, when you are angry, scared, panicked. It happens when you constantly do the things you do regularly and suddenly realize you have a choice.” ― Veronika Tugaleva

Wish you always “firmly paddle” on the path of self-discovery ahead!